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Issues faced in Indian Joint Family System

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In this patriarchal world, even if the woman gets married to man still they have to take permission for doing anything like going out etc.  It is a common scenario faced by couples in joint family. It is undeniable fact that the couple wants a free space to understand each other. As arrange marriage clearly has two individuals who were strangers to each other. But why does it become a problem?

I do not deny the advantages living in joint family like the children stay connected to culture, beliefs and values. In the crisis times (financial or social), everyone is together or parents can leave their children to run important errands. There are other good reasons of living in joint family. However it does have negative side like unnecessary restrictions put over the newly -weds or existing couples. The couple are strangers and it takes time to understand each other needs, likes and dislikes. Naturally it is human nature that every human being wants love and would love the fact that the person with whom they are going to spend their lives bring flowers or favorite sweet or praise them. The next is quite obvious fact, there will times when they get frustrated, angry and sad but if they have a way to express and can make up the mistakes. Every individual in joint family have to maintain their emotions, that too irrespective if how he or she is feeling.

 As mentioned they have ask before going to out of the house. The couple are already adults and it does not make sense of restricting their movements.  In the long run it has irrevocable effects on relationship of couple because the misunderstanding has reached to level where it cannot be resolved. It leads to trust and other issues.  The reasons why the couple are not given personal space – everyone has assigned roles and have to act accordingly because divulging from is not appreciated in society. So the leashes of in-laws are tight and it does not take the son of household. In the case the couples, it is outrage of modesty of showing love in the public area which includes their own home and members of family. Another reason can be that the parents of son are scared that his wife would take their son and reduce the affection over them.

 On the contrary if there are given a personal place where couples can have heart to heart conversation within themselves and among in-laws member of family is could solve the problem. Though it is requires a lot of compromise and but still will work as magic. Ultimately, if every member is happy, only then it will be a happy family as a whole.


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